Does your religion/beliefs hinder your sexual expression?
Yes and No.
I'm not very religious, I'm spiritual. I believe in Christ and I believe in sin. In THAT way, it is hindered...yet for me the word "hinder" is strong. It's a choice for me to remain celibate. My abstinence transcended into a celibacy due to my own personal desires to make a change in my life. I exercise discipline over my flesh because I believe that I'm at a point in my life where God is calling me to live right. You can't advise folk of something you're not practicing...so, I keep my legs closed. lol This of course is an easy feat due to there being no prospective men in my life. Lord be a fence and a cold shower when an attractive man falls into my midst. ~phew~
I want to be able to draw the line between the one who desires me and the one who wants to fulfill my love's desires. I want my king to come into my life and I want to weed out all of those whose intent is purely lustful and not in line with my own beliefs.
I was in love and waiting for someone and I found myself very much in that situation by myself. What I need is to be on an eye to eye level with someone. I need to know that screwing me isn't his only goal.
I COULD do my thing...and still be okay with who I am and my own personal walk with God because it is mine and no one is going to be with me on Judgment Day...but it wouldn't in my opinion, lead me to the person who I want to be my last first kiss. Casual sex isn't in the cards for me at this point in my life's journey, therefore I am holding onto my treasure until I feel like sharing it.
Is my spirituality and beliefs and impetus to remain celibate? Yes. Is it a hindrance? No.
7 comments:
I feel about the same way.. Although I have feel victim this past year. I was doing good for awhile. When my crush acted as if he was ready to build something with me. Yet, I am picking myself back up... I really truly want that someone who means something... :)
I meant fell.. Sorry..
Absolutely, Mah...it's easy to fall off but you just try not to be too hard on yourself and commit to doing better. ((HUGS))
mine is more a combination of logistics and the simple thing of keeping ones vows. Could I do what is expected of all men, sure it's easy enough and there are all those ready made excuses. Thing is that's never been me, I don't need a drummer, beat or band if I don't wish to follow everybody else I'm out, you do you, I'll do me and at the end of the day hopefully we are both happy.
Your body, your choice.
I've always heard that abstinence is the world's greatest perversion.
One things true though, you've gotta do you.
Prime~ I just feel that when a person can draw a defined line between having sex for pleasure and having sex to please someone else...they're on the right road. So many folks fuck for the fun of it, some for the desperation of trying to find love. I just want my sexual experiences to be as healthy as they are good and this is what I prefer...having said that...
Reggie~ That maybe true to an extent...and that extent is the grey area in which I reside right now, hence the no sex. lol
I want to be like you when I grow up.
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