Monday, June 6, 2011

23~ Yes, Mister...



Dom/Sub...sexy or just an excuse for men to abuse women?

I don't think that...

I've been observing for a LONG time the interactions between doms and subs. Over on 360, I peeped several of these dynamics and read their blogs in curiosity.

What I found personally to be the gist of these relationships...is  trust. I find that the whole point of the roles being played is to submit to someone who you trust and allow them to take you on a journey of sexual freedom and experiences.

I've read stories of subs who had to grow to trust their dom to allow fisting, asphyxiation (not the tamer shit I've heard some friends say they 've experience, but a more intense version), bondage, etc.

Another thing is...

It's not just men who are doms. A lot of doms are women, and men are the subs. Again...it's about trusting someone, loving someone implicitly...trusting them with your life basically. Yes, it's deep. It's like..."I trust you to take my mind, body and spirit to other levels of satisfaction and know that you won't harm me."

That's what I've learned. I don't down anyone for being either role. I actually commend someone for being able to allow someone to have that power over them and let it be a pleasure-seeking thing and not a feeling that somehow they're being abused or mistreated.

If they like it...I love it.

4 comments:

Mahoganydymond said...

Yea I don't knock those who do.. I don't think it is abusive.. I think if they are willing to go into that lifestyle it all cool.. I do think it is SEXY though.. Especially the women DOMS.. Something about the way they dress and the in charge type thing... I know I am weird.. hehehe

Thee_Kween said...

No, you're not weird...just curious and fearless. Those are good things. :)

Humble BE said...

The doms that are women is always strange to me. But, you are right. women dominate as well.

Reggie said...

Definitely not my bag.

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